Tooele Transcript Bulletin – News in Tooele, Utah

November 19, 2019
If one can learn from criticism, life can become more pleasant

I had tossed and turned seemingly all night. The morning’s light was a cue for me to climb out of bed, even though the light felt like sandpaper on my eyes. When I should have been asleep, I instead reflected on a criticism from the night before. 

In the dawn, I felt compelled to craft a message. After walking toward my bedroom chair, crawling at first, my fingers felt their way across a keyboard. After beginning, my digits picked up speed, trying their best to travel at the speed of thought.

“One of the greatest challenges I have in my business is to change, personally,” I wrote. “My business coach tells me that if I blame ‘the market’ for a slowness of business, I should look around and see if there are others who are doing well. Are they writing contracts? If they are, then it’s up to me to adjust myself so I can get the desired results.”

Of course, business wasn’t the real question at hand, but I was seeking common ground, a passageway to reach deeper into the personal realm. I needed to channel my inner teacher. I was trying to be like my friend Steve Maranville, who says, “I’m a teacher in search of a classroom.”

Today I had unwittingly received a classroom, so I felt an obligation, a personal responsibility, to teach. When I masquerade as a teacher, I take the charge seriously. So I continued tapping on the keyboard.

Now I was at the hard part, offering personal advice! I wanted to be sure to get it right!

“So,” I continued writing, “perhaps you could shift your thinking from a perception of being ‘yelled at,’ to one of accepting the feedback, so you can correct your path and move quickly toward success. After all, we all learn as we go.”

I struggled here, since I am still a work in progress when it comes to maintaining an enabling attitude. Here goes!

“Attitude is the great differentiator. If one can learn from criticism and use it as a path toward success, life’s schooling becomes more pleasant,” I wrote. “This is a lifetime skill that will pay huge dividends and will separate you from others, from those simply staying stagnant, because they aren’t listening, to what others are offering them for personal growth. In this regard, I constantly have to ask myself, is this my ego talking? Or, do I want to keep getting better and better?”

I had tossed and turned seemingly all night. The morning’s light acted as a cue for me to climb out of bed, even though the increasing light felt like sandpaper raking my eyes. Now, I was no longer sleeping, and had reflected on a conversation and battle within myself from the evening before to now. In the dawn, I had crafted a message. The one I needed to hear right now! 

My fingers had found their way across my keyboard, after walking toward my bedroom chair, crawling at first. Yet, moments after beginning, my digits picked up speed, trying their best to travel at the speed of thought.

Now I was finished internalizing what my teachers had offered me. For the moment.

Life unmoving? Never! I want to keep getting better and better! It’s the same choice for every one of us. Hope this helps!

Lynn Butterfield lives in Erda and is a managing broker for a real estate company.

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